CHRISTIAN VIRTUES EXPECTED
FROM THE MARRIED
(I Corinthians
1:10)
“Now I beseech
you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same
thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same
mind and in the same judgement”.
POWER OF
AGREEMENT
AIM:
Each family
must be able to identify and have clear understanding on what they like and
dislike, and agree on how things should be done in the family.
It is very important that we understand the meaning
of the sub topic of this teaching. Power means the weight of getting things done
while agreement is having positive resolution on anything that may come up in
the family.
1. Life in
the family
Discovering the agenda of living in the family
immediately after wedding, the couple will sit down together for a period of
time after their wedding and resolute on how they will live together as a godly
family, in order to bring honour to God and to all the members of the family.
Positive agenda
may be as follows:
1.
How to address each other
with humility
2.
How to adorn ourselves in
the way that God will be glorified (I Peter 3:3-4)
3.
How to give to God e.g.
tithes, pledges and offerings (Malachi 3:10; Ecclesiastes 5:5-7)
4.
Charity, support the ministers
of God, giving to the needies etc (Luke 6:38)
1.
Accepting each others’
parents and in-laws
2.
Exercising the attitude of
communicating with each other
2. Unity
in prayer (Matthew 18:19-20)
One of the
greatest weapons against the devil is the unity in prayer of the Christian
husband and the wife. They must be holy and pray with open mind with each
other.
They are to
expect any of these three answers:
(a) It could be ‘yea’ in which God would answer immediately.
(b) It could be ‘wait’ in which God is asking them to be patient.
(c) It could be ‘no’ in which God would not do it because He knows the reason for
not ding it, but it will be for our own good. This may not be because of sin.
Instead of waiting patiently on God, many families use to go to various places
to find solutions to their problems, yet to no avail. Many have been misled
with various unbiblical visions. This is why many homes have scattered.
Every Christian family must believe that God
is everywhere and He answers prayer whenever you call on Him. Although, it is
not a sin if you ask others to assist your family in prayer, but we should not
be prayer beggars. Whenever there is any misunderstanding, it is better to
settle it and pray together on the family problem, God will answer.
3. Projects
There are various projects in life in which
many families are involved. For example, building projects, business ventures
and mobility et cetera. After knowing
or having understanding of which type of project the family has in mind to
embark upon at a particular time, the next thing is to work on how to execute
it, so that the conclusion reached in discussion will come to reality. One
thing is to discuss and arrange how things should be done, but another thing is
to do the follow up properly.
4. Sexual Relationship
Each
couple must sit down to discuss with a view to resolve the subject matter. It
is good for every couple to take stand
in order not to have any controversy on sexual matter. Let them decide on what
to do that will not cause harm to both partners (I Corinthians 7:1-5).
5. Assisting
extended family members
It is very important for the couple to discuss
the above issue of how to assist extended family. They must understand that
each party has responsibility to their parents, like the financial assistant to
their father, mother and their siblings et cetera.
BELOW ARE FEW PIECES OF
ADVICE FOR THE COUPLE
a. There must be proper agreement before accepting any child to live with
them.
b. They must consider their financial status before accepting any plea for
financial request from outside.
c. They must ask for full information about the child or any one begging
them to come and join them in their home.
Prayer Points
1. I thank God for giving me
the grace to have a good spouse.
2. I pray that God will help us
to have stronger unity than before in good things.
3. I pray that the glory of God
will be shining in our homes.
4. God will make our homes to
enjoy heaven on earth.
5. The glory of the Lord will
be seen in the lives of our children.
6. God will avert every
negative verbal pronouncement against our homes.
7. The power of the devil and
his cohorts will not prosper in our homes in Jesus’ name.
8. Make us to enjoy heaven the
blessings of peaceful homes in Jesus’ name.
9. Every member of the family
will excel in Jesus’ name.
10.
Go and excel in the projects of your homes in Jesus’ name.
